Since I’m on a roll with writing about my trip to divide up my dad’s lifetime, I figure I may as well keep on going. If you missed it, HERE is part one.
Aside from dealing with a sister who thrives on drama, I felt a lot of emotions during the division of the assets. Picking through personal items seemed invasive. Then seeing all the things that no one wanted was just sad. My dad had a massive library, and there wasn’t a single book I wanted. They will go to good use, though. All are going to the college/seminary where my father once taught. Perhaps what made it harder was that my dad is still alive, although in no condition to sort through things.
I did visit my dad two more times, once on Sunday evening and then again Monday morning. The last time he was completely unable to come up with my name, although he could tell everyone where I was born. At least he didn’t come up with the year. Lol While I was there, I met with a member of his care team. It was more to touch base than anything else. We are very pleased with the care he is receiving.
Another thing I did during this trip was to go and see the massive 3,500 sq ft cottage my brother and sister-in-law are having built in place of their old one they had demolished. They’ve always done a lot of entertaining so this will give them plenty of room to do so. They are eager to have it completed since right now their condo is wall-to-wall furniture and building supplies. I can’t even begin to image trying to keep up with two homes, let alone afford it! One house is plenty enough for me!
On Monday I went to my daughter and son-in-law’s house. My son and daughter-in-law and their kiddo were also there. We had fun visiting, but I have to admit, I was happy to check into a quiet hotel room for my last night away. Lol
After checking out of the hotel on Tuesday, I drove around a few streets in my old town. I also swung by our old house. I had found some papers such as the house plans and warranty info I wanted to give the new owners. It gave me an excuse to drive down the long driveway and see the place again. Hard to believe that we’ve been gone for almost four years already. Other than missing the gardens and my chicken coop, I don’t miss the place. Oddly, the house and grounds even felt a bit foreign to me.
My daughter made a two-hour trip to meet me at an outlet mall that was in-route for my drive back home. Neither of us bought anything. We had a quick lunch and parted ways.
I stopped in another city (in-route) to do a little more sourcing for my business. At that point I was pretty tired, so I didn’t spend a lot of time before getting back on the highway to go home. I made it home right around 9:30 PM.
I had to work the past two days and Hubs is also back to work. Fortunately, he had the rental to return to the airport, so that saved me a trip. While the trip was a good one (other than the drama queen!) driving 1200 miles in three days plus having too much other stuff going on was tiring. Today was the first time since I got back that I even felt up to getting stuff done. Hopefully the next trip won’t be as hectic. I’m too old for this sort of thing! Lol
Whew, sounds exhausting, but it was nice that your daughter drove up just to meet you for a little visit.
It was tiring, but also a good time to visit with family.
What a journey – both emotionally and physically!!!! You made it and I’m sure it made your dad very happy to see everyone’s face, even if he couldn’t remember names. It really does make you think about getting rid of things – things that we cherish, no one else really wants. I have SOOOOOO many craft supplies but when I go my kids don’t want those, they will go to charity or in the trash….I’m ok with that, it is just funny what we are so fond of can mean nothing to anyone else. I have a friend who has a LOT of beautiful linens, embroidery, lacework that her grandmother and mother handmade – not one of her kids wants any of it so it is being left to me because she knows I will cherish it. Now when I go, my kids…..guess I won’t care by then 🙂
It was quite the trip. I know my dad also appreciated the extra visits. From what the staff told me, he does better when he has a daily visit. My siblings do the best they can, but it isn’t always easy to make sure he gets a visit.
I guess the saying “One man’s junk is another man’s treasure” can work both ways! Lol
I’m sure you are mentally and physically exhausted. Do something for yourself today. Maybe a nice bath.
It was draining, more so than I realized. Today is the first day since I got back that I actually feel fully rested.
Sounds like the trip(after the bad snow at the start)went well. And at least the DQ sister gave you something to blog about and to roll your eyes at. lolz
I am dreading if my remaining brother goes after his wife does. They don’t have any kids together and this brother is a hoarder too and if his wife isn’t there still to just trash it all(which she will do)I’m next in line to deal with it all. Ah good times….not.
Have some me time this week….
Overall it went well. Now if I could just get my eyeballs to go back in place after all the rolling they did. Lol Arent’ you lucky to be (potentially) next in line! Hey, you never know, you might just unearth a treasure or two!